Skip to main content

What is a behavior chart, and how can you use it?

When it comes to teaching our children good behavior, you are the role models for our children. They will model what they see us as parents doing. However, a little extra motivation here and there does not hurt. This is where a behavior chart comes in. They make a great tool to help children stay disciplined and behaved. Sometimes they are called “routine charts,” sticker charts,” or “reward charts,” as well. Using these point charts for kids is a good way to modify a behavior in your child that you would like to see changed.

What exactly is a behavior chart?

If there are behaviors that you would like to see change in your child, one of the quickest ways to do it is to use a behavior chart. You should identify one to three behaviors that you want to modify in them. Tackling too many behaviors at once can be overwhelming to your child. Now, you can create the chart itself. A whiteboard can work great for this. However, there are plenty of ideas on Pinterest for behavior charts that you can take cues from! You write down the behaviors that you want your child to modify, and you can denote different symbols to add to the board. For example, if they achieved the desired outcome for the day, you can draw in a star or a smiley face. If not, you can add something like a sad face.

A smiling girl With A chore chart
Melissa King / Shutterstock

Why use one?

There are key advantages to utilizing behavior charts for toddlers. It will help them quickly turn around the behavior that you are trying to change. It does not require any punishments or time-outs. Children will simply learn that if they perform well on any given day, they will either receive a happy face or a sad face — or whatever you choose to use; some people use stickers. When they reach a certain amount of happy faces or stars, or whatever you choose to use, come up with a reward that they can have. It can be anything you can think of, really. Perhaps an extra half hour of television time, or maybe staying up an extra 10 minutes before bedtime. You can choose that is appropriate for your child. Once your child collects up enough points, they can kind of “cash them in” for the rewards that you have chosen for them. Children will quickly want to rack up as many points as possible, so they will try to turn around their behavior as best as they can.

Recommended Videos

Don’t forget to praise them

By also praising your child, you will reinforce the good behavior that you are looking for your child to implement. On the same hand, you shouldn’t put them down for not achieving a smiley face or sticker for that day. Negativity will not get you anywhere, but positive reinforcement will help your child along the way of behavior modification. Help them stay the course by reminding them of the reward that they will receive when they behave in the way that you are trying to reinforce. By doing this, they will have extra motivation in order to behave the way that you want them to.

A little girl laughing
Jose Ibarra/Unsplash

What kinds of behavior charts are there?

There are different “behavior charts” that you can use. It all depends on what you are trying to achieve with your child. For example, if you are trying to start your child with household chores, a behavior chore chart can be implemented. Some easy chores to start them off with is to make sure that they are picking up the toys in their room after playtime is over. Other charts include a chart for homework, but that is less for toddlers and more for children who are in kindergarten and up. You can also create a routine behavior chart. An example of this is, say, that maybe your child has trouble going to bed at night. You can make up a chart that breaks down the routine for them and the individual tasks that they have to do in order to receive a smiley face. If they have to brush their teeth, put on their pajamas, and pick out a book to read, these can be broken down into a chart for them so they can easily see what needs to be done.

There are a variety of behavior charts, and they are an effective parenting tool when it comes to behavior modification in children.

Jennifer Passmore
Former Digital Trends Contributor
Jennifer has written two books on how to deal with living with chronic illness using the power of positivity. She has written…
Why teaching responsibility to children is crucial to their development
The importance of responsibility in kids
Post-it note with responsibility written on it

Responsible kids turn into responsible adults, and as parents, all we want is to raise good kids who become good adults. However, it can be hard to teach kids responsibility. PBS Kids defines responsibility as "being dependable, making good choices, and taking accountability for your actions." Simply put, responsible people look out for more than just themselves. So why is teaching responsibility such a big part of kids' development? According to the Center for Parenting Education, teaching a child to be responsible is essential to success in school and beyond.

There are many ways your child can exhibit responsibility. Responsibility is a comprehensive term that incorporates different traits, including dependability, accountability, accepting credit, admitting mistakes, keeping one's word, and meeting obligations.

Read more
What implantation cramping feels like: Early pregnancy signs to know
What to expect if you're experiencing implantation cramps
A woman having cramps

Implantation cramping happens during the implantation of the embryo into the uterus. Not everyone will experience implantation cramping, and those who do may not realize that is what is happening. Learn more about what implantation cramps feel like, how long they last, and how to tell them apart from period cramps.

What does implantation cramping feel like?

Read more
10 outdoor chores that help teach kids responsibility
The earliest kids learn through chores the better
Young kid watering the garden outdoors

Every parent can agree that chores are an important part of a child's responsibility. Having kids do assigned chores helps ensure that everyone is contributing around the house. Doing chores also teaches school-age kids important life skills. You may not want to think about it now, but those tweens and teens will be heading off to college or the real world soon enough, so they need to know how to look after themselves as well as their dorm room or apartment. Having children do chores, even outdoor chores, at a young age, teaches teamwork and helps instill a strong work ethic while introducing kids to time management.

Tying chores to earning a weekly allowance has its bonuses, as well. Earning an allowance is a teaching tool in itself, introducing kids to the relationship between work and pay. Having an allowance also showcases another vital life skill — the difference between want and need. When kids spend their own hard-earned money, they learn to stop and think before making a purchase.

Read more